• Blog,  Open Adoption

    Leah’s Story

    One April Sunday in 2004, my Mom and I decided to take an easy hike to enjoy the beautiful weather. Pilot Mountain was close by and we had gone many times in the previous years.  The spring air still had a slight chill to it, my basketball-like 7-month belly was hiding under an old dance team t-shirt and a light jacket kept me warm. I’m sure I was wearing yoga pants since that’s all I could find to fit my new growing size, no maternity pants fit quite right. They are made for adults, after all, and I was only 16 years old with barely any curves to hold adult…

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    Our Open Adoption Film

    I was so honored to be asked by Talk About Adoption‘s founder Callie Jett to be the birth mother interviewed for her film in May of 2016. This premiered at the Pro-Life Women’s Conference in June 2016, where I spoke on a birth mom panel sharing my experience alongside other amazing birth moms and our advice surrounding adoption. You can view that here for more insight on different birth mothers’ perspectives. We aim for the world to see the option of adoption as a valid option. It is a new chance at life for the baby and the birth parent, too. We aim for people to change their view on birth mothers, that we aren’t…

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    Birth Parents, Adoptive Parents, and Adoptees– I need you!

    I have a clear vision of the book I need to be focusing on– a guide to help others know how to navigate the bittersweet, complex, beautiful world of open adoption relationships. It’ll hold the “secrets” to what has made our open adoption so incredibly amazing and fascinating to others. I want to share this information in hopes that more adoptions will be positive– more satisfied and at peace members of the entire adoption triad. It’s a scientific fact that those within open adoption relationships report higher satisfaction, but what does it actually take to make it work? My book needs your adoption experiences! In order to encompass the variety of adoptions and experiences, I need your voices. I…

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    The Oyster & the Pearl: What Will You Do With Your Sand?

    My counselor once told me of how the oyster forms a pearl. It starts with a grain of sand finding its way inside, causing it much pain.  That grain of sand is what an unplanned pregnancy can be, abuse, adoption, infertility, heartache, depression, the death of a loved one, illness, job loss…you name it. Our life has heartache…setbacks…pain.  But what does the oyster do? It turns it over and over, smoothing the edges and giving it a beautiful shine so that one day it can offer something beautiful to others.  That is what I aim to do with my hurts, by the grace and guidance of God. It definitely is not an…

  • Blog,  Open Adoption

    Photo-a-Day Challenge

    I participated in Big Tough Girl’s Photo-a-day challenge during November’s National Adoption Awareness Month, where each day I dug deep into a memory of what shaped my experience as a birth mom.  Going through pictures tonight picking out ones to share for and it took my heart back in time. You never know when triggers will break open the crack and let the sadness out. I miss her and think of her every day, but some moments it is felt deeper than others. This photo was taken when my birth daughter was 2, back when I was still a teen and we had monthly visits and sleepovers. A time when…

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    Birthdays: Feeling Adoption Loss

    Anna turned 11  and as usual, it brought about memories and emotions that I don’t usually have on a daily basis.  Usually, I am very much at peace and content that we have 2 separate lives that occasionally intersect. However, birthdays trigger memories to come flooding back as if it was just yesterday, making the piece missing in my heart feel just as raw as it was after placement. After her birthday party on my 2-hour drive home, I couldn’t help but just cry a little. As I listened to the worship music on my iPhone, I let the floodgates down.  I miss her. I miss the daily presence she would have…